This isn’t Burger King

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Bill Cosby in his TV show was taking care of his kids and when they complained, he told them”This isn’t Burger King, you can’t always have it your way”. LOL I have lived by those words since then. I taught that to my husband in a sarcastic way when we talked about our marriage and its compromises and now we are living it with my daughter every day. Example, after a year of being in a cave, I came out to celebrate my friend’s birthday to an upscale lounge in downtown los angeles. I prepared by leaving my home early to get myself and my daughter settled. I packed her enough lunch to last her 2 days. I left some formula for her father, just in case. I left my husband lunch money and I was off an hour early. I got to the party at exactly 9pm. The birthday girl was still at home so I ordered her drink and a soda for myself. She finally arrived and  1/2 hour later the rest of my friends arrived also. By this time it was 10pm and I had been there for 1 hour. I was tired and sleepy since 10pm was past my bedtime but I was determined to have a good time. at 10:30pm my husband called to check on things and I decided to take the opportunity to go home. My eyes were burning and red and the left one was twitching. It was not what I had planned. I told the birthday girl and she seemed bother but there was nothing she could do. When you say “baby” and she is 10 months, it’s hard to come back with an argument.

I left and got home at 11:30pm and was in bed by midnight. I didn’t get to talk to my friends, whom I hadn’t seen since my wedding and the 4 hour drive to/from los angeles was a big waste. I was sad because my only day off was a big dissappointment. But this isn’t Burger King…. I can’t have it my way. If I could have had it my way, my eye would not have hurt and I would have been there until at least midnight. *sigh*

Today my eye still hurts and it’s swollen. I didn’t get to go to the park like I had planned. Instead I stayed home and recovered from the trip. Another “burger king” moment. My husband often asks me if he can go play poker, or clean his car, or play on the computer. and more “burger king” moments.

So a sarcastic remark to my husband 2 years ago has turned into our motto. Snopi lives by that too. She doesn’t get to play with my phone or the remote control even though she cries for it. She has her toys. Sometimes when she doesn’t want to go to bed, I leave her in the room to work it out on her own until she is ready for bedtime.

As a new mom, not only have I adjusted my lifestyle by having to share my time with my husband, my daughter, my family, and switching my priorities, but also my needs. I try to schedule me time and date night but life happens…. and this isn’t Burger King.